Her success – with someone not from this area – made me think about how we operate in this dating world and how it’s changed in recent years.
Just call me “Beta-Max”
Finding a love interest at a bar is getting as obsolete as a VHS tape. Success at on-line dating is everywhere, and once I started doing research for this article, I found dozens of people who had met on-line, even some that have been married for many years, right under my nose.
The choices these days seem limitless. Match.com, eHarmony, eLove, and plenty more, all for basic on-line dating; jdate for Jewish connections, ChristianMingle for people of that faith and a dozen others.
True romance
Paige, 41, of New Bedford, met her husband Geoff on-line and they have been married for seven years and have two children. Paige chose match because she found it hard to meet people otherwise. Geoff was one of her first three dates made in the first week when she decided it was time to “just do it” and make match work for her. But it wasn’t a love at first sight: though Geoff was her first date, and they had a quick connection, she carried through on the other two dates. She and Geoff stayed friends for three months before they started to date seriously.
“I had preconceived notions about what I wanted and it was a bit different than Geoff; I thought he was a fun and nice person I wanted to have as a friend,” said Paige, “and as time passed it became clear to me that he was even better than my preconceived notions of who I should be with.”
While Paige found love rather quickly on-line, she says that, like anything, there were hurdles and roadblocks to the endgame.
“Email communication can be hard, there can be misunderstandings; it’s hard to sometimes gauge others’ emotions. There are also all kinds of people on-line, some who want to casually date, some more serious, and some who just want to hook up for one night... I found some occasional communications were kind of creepy,” said Paige.
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